200 more crappy words, part 2.
People can't be surprised when they are let go from a job for not showing up to work. They can be frustrated or make excuses, but they really can't be shocked when they've been late to their last 3 shifts. People can't be surprised when they meet the silent treatment due to rude behavior. For example, if you have a family member in your life and you always leave them out of the group chats. Why would you do that? Sure, the family member might be loud and disorganized, but don't you still love them? Why can there not be a group chat with the family member you left out so that way they feel inclusion? Another example, if somebody marries into a family, why would you make them feel beneath the family they married into? If you don't care for them, okay. You can't be surprised then if someday, when they have children, you're not the people they are thinking of when they are thinking of raising a child. You can be amazed that they would stand up for themselves instead of being a pushover or you can even be upset that they moved far away, but you cannot be surprised at actions taken when you have not taken any steps to avoid the outcome. A final example, you can't be surprised that your friends will leave you someday when you constantly freeze people out. Yes, you can be numb to the idea or you can even dismiss the concept, but you cannot be surprised when your friends won't accept mediocre effort anymore. Friends give and they give, but what about receiving? I can't explain people, or what people are thinking, but yeah, every family and friendship has some dysfunction. At the end of the day, we are all responsible for our own actions and words. I can't make you do anything and neither can your family, everything you do and say, you have chosen to do.
Have you ever had somebody in your life surprised by something you were unsure why?
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